“the first time is my fault (of the traitor), the second time is yours (of the betrayed)”
Explain exactly what that mean, because it’s easy to confuse the true meaning.
Actually this proverb is used badly in a version all false.
The current explanation is those that which identifies the traitor like a saint while the betrayed like a shady guilty, guilty of something not well defined.
Basically anyone who follows this version says that the traitor is guilty only the first time that betrays, while all following at the first, the fault is of the betrayed because he/she have something wrong.
The problem is not define that something is wrong in any way, it identifies a problem within the logic of saying that this was not strictly correct version.
Now seeing the true and original version of the proverb, as was been intended from who said it the first time.
The first time is my fault, the second time is your fault because you have forgiven me.
As you can see the proverb is now playing a more correct language logic and also grammar level.
Indeed, the origine of the proverb is this last versiona and define perfectly that the real fault is of the traitor, because he/she have betrayed the trust given to him/her because who betray once betray also the second and the third and the fourft, in fact the proverb is absolutely logic and clare in this “the second” it say, so it is absolutely certain that will be a second, but if there is a second will be also a third and so go on.
Forgiveness is seen in this proverb to a fault, because this had pardoned the traitor gave him a second chance to do it again.
It then must first be able to weigh what you do, to the traitor the betraylas and to the betrayed the forgiveness, if you decide to not forgive the traitor yet after the first time is sure more certain that he/she most will not betray you, because, he/she will not be into your life.
If you decide to forgive but to keep clinging to the futile hope that the traitor betrays no more changes and we know that there will be other times when we betray several times and will give even the fault of what you have done and faults that you have not, this often depends on whether the traitor must be silenced his guilt, but the only way to do this is to blame someone else, that is betrayed, and it feel guilty for keeping him stuck in a person can use when they please and can run as a flag, as he wishes at will use and consumption.
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pubblicato il 11/05/2