You can be a bully to 5 years at 40. Of course, the names change depending on the age but the act of bullying remains so even if you experience with different methods.
A 5 year old is manifested by the antipathy toward another child and consequent repeated daily acts of violent games to socially isolate the companion targeted. Usually at that age children are not alone, they are not in school and do not have when they go to the little park, the parent or the teacher if she sees a wrong behavior generally occurs scolding the child and sometimes putting it in the corner.
The reproach on the time of the incident or the possible punishment is experienced by the child as insulation, but knows that the parent or the teacher or the same classmate will not stop loving him. It 'a specific attitude that isolates the behavior and it does not isolate the child socially.
In primary school bullying becomes more selective, the children begin to notice differences in behavior, physical or psychological in their friends and classmates according to their family education and micro-society in which they live. So, children can discard the games their classmates because with different skin color or a different religion or simply because they have chosen a different sport from them, or for other reasons.
At this point, it is always the adult who intervenes with a the behavioral isolation, the adult scolds the child for his behavior puts him as punishment, told everyone what happened and why it is wrong, why you should not do and instructs victims on what to do. Always inform an adult.
This, however, must be accompanied by the same constructive attitude from both the school by both parents and need to be motivated all parties involved, both the victims and the bullies.
It's important that adults teach children that everyone is different behavior for psychological and physical, to attitudes, to physicality and that they (the bullies) are different from others. If the bully sees a difference in a classmate or friend, but his friend saw a difference in him.
The attitude of arrogance the bully will not disappear but its diversity will make it just more obvious.
If a work of this kind is not done with the children has a high likelihood that the problem will recur as a boy and then as an adult. The only difference is that attitudes have hardened and anger, racism, bullying from children who had to result in different fields, that is to look at a smiling boy/girl, or because it is deemed better at school (the nerd shift) it does not matter if it has merit or not.
The teenager, however, is seen in an aggregation group looking to share its own interests, or perhaps I should say that looking for a group where they feel accepted for what they really are and not for what others want them to be.
And it's natural that not all groups that are created are of sound principles, some may not.
The teenager, however, be conditioned and is usually more influenced by the group by what they see on television or on the internet by his family. In practice, the situation was reversed, and children are more than the teachings of parents and the school, as teenagers are more influential their friends. The teenager tries to break away from his family in order to assume its own identity as an adult staff, but not always choose the paths that are right.
At this point, however, if it explodes bullying the adult must intervene with an immediate the behavioral isolation, in order to block the guy and make him realize that his behavior is wrong, then take it back psychologically sometimes followed by psychotherapy in a way that is able to accept himself and subsequently others.
What do you do exactly?
By his friends and classmates:
1) As soon as you see the incident (eg. Beats a bully or mistreat someone), to distance and call the police, authorities of the school if you're in the school.
2) Tell him to stop and that the behavior is inappropriate (remember, the behavior not the person, it is wrong to say "you're inadequate," you must say "your behavior is inappropriate")
3) calls an adult and always talk to an adult you trust and who can help you, a teacher or a parent for example.
4) Do not pretend nothing has happened, not incited to violence, bullies do not take sides, do not be afraid ever.
5) Do not really isolated and socially, ever, your friends or fellow victims of violence or bullying, down, stay close, do not be afraid to suffer even you, talk to an adult.
From adults (teachers, parents):
1) Do not pretend nothing has happened, not the minimized happened, not giustificateli, you are adults.
2) Use the the behavioral isolation, stop the bully and scold him on the spot for the "inappropriate behavior"
3) If you become aware of it then, the scolding is no longer needed and even the behavioral isolation. A healthy chat about what is right or wrong if it helps a lot. In the classroom it is useful to talk about it from time to time just to gauge if anyone has had problems with bullies, sometimes broader themes of creatives writing leave room for their feelings.
4) Inform the parents (if you are a teacher) of the boys and suggested therapy.
5) If you are parents, talk first with the parents of the bully or if you can not go to the police or the police, depending on where you live.
6) does not criminalized the bully, has some social problems that need to be recovered by experts.
These techniques have been used in some communities of the internet by me, many of the boys with whom I have spoken were able to understand the mistake without being traumatized.
In the real of the life, however, we need more commitment on the internet by all concerned, both the bullies both parents and teachers, depending on the society in which they live.
Finally, however, there is bullying more dangerous. The bullying of adults, they are smarter, more educated, more bad of a teenager and use all the techniques to succeed in their business.
Bullying to an adult may also represent what today is called mobbing (perhaps the most common type of bullying nowadays) or other kind, like stalking.
As for children and adolescents, there is a chance to recover with adults, adult bullies there is little chance of recovery, for adults, there are laws, but also many times falls to help victims. It's possible still groped the use of a the behavioral isolation, but always useful, but not necessarily work, but an attempt will not be detrimental if the isolation behavioral does not work you should contact the police.
Rashna